The Wellness Visit
Too often are seen in the ICU or in the emergency room middle aged or older adults with some chronic illness(es) who are incapacitated with a catastrophic event. Then, frequently in the absence of documented/voiced advanced directives, it is left to the healthcare proxy (if previously assigned) in combination with (other) family members and the medical team to guide the care plan. It struck me that knowing an individual’s values and preferences (expressed to a neutral party) on how they wanted to be cared for if seriously ill are undoubtedly beneficial in situations where difficult choices have to be made. Read the rest of this entry »
The Conversation Stopper
So there I am, watching my kids playing in the local playground, new to the locale, trying to form my own social network with other parents of young children. It is all very chatty and amicable until the topic of employment comes up…
“And what do you do?”
“I work in palliative care. (Silence) Have you heard of it?”
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Through the Therapeutic Window
Through the therapeutic window comes in a shard of light. And in that light is hope, is bliss, is warmth. And a suggestion of an opening into a place that is kept hidden oftentimes from oneself and then can only manifest through others. Read the rest of this entry »
Social Media is Now!
Recently I have noticed more postings to departed loved ones on their anniversaries of passing. It appears to be a novel way of professing out loud one’s grief and love for family or friends who have passed on. Read the rest of this entry »
The fine line between son-in-law and doctor-in-law: by Nicky Quinlan, JPM Fellow-in-Training Columnist
Daisy is 68. In the past few years, she has experienced life with a neurological condition causing progressive functional decline, pain, visual impairment and other indignities. Surprisingly to me, she cut a rug into the wee hours at my sister’s wedding in Ireland recently. Other days, she sleeps a whole lot and needs much assistance with mobility and ADLs from her loving, dedicated spouse, Abe.
Her spirit remains strong, however.
Daisy is also my mother-in-law. Read the rest of this entry »



